Motherhood is a journey and there is no destination. It is the process of highs and lows, self-doubt and compassion, loneliness and dedicated, career and no me time. And this can only be understood by the parent who has dedicated his or her whole life to make this journey memorable.
Raising a child means watering the plant daily and if you misses watering the plant it will dry or eventually die. Similarly, parents need to devote most of the time taking care and love the child. Children demand unwavering attention and love and it is observed socially or biologically that this gap can only be filled by Mother and hence Motherhood term is very vital and important in child's as well in mother's life.
Mothers are generally considered to be soft and well-mannered when it comes to guiding or taking care of child and it takes her whole life to do so. It doesn't matter if you are a housewife or a career driven women, motherhood is same for everyone and it demands unwavering and 24*7 attentive and choice-making between things you like to do and your child.
When a women gets pregnant a lot things happens inside her and cannot be expressed in words. She feels each and every moment happens inside her or the changing in hormone from day one and she knows what does it takes to become a MOTHER but a real things happens after you give and take birth. The sudden change in perception is a real thing happens after you gather your consciousness.
Mothers don't even realize what she has been through to give a birth to her child and only thing she wants to do is hug her baby. And from that day the only important person in baby's life is his or her Mother but when this turned out to not able to do the daily chores or even the self care mothers starts to feel depressing and monotonous routine led her to hate her baby sometimes and it is quite normal and that hit so hard that Mothers starts questioning her Capability or Self doubting her emotions.
LITTLE THE BABY LITTLE THE PROBLEM,BIGGER THE BABY BIGGER THE PROBLEM. Everyone thinks that okay after baby turns six month things would become easier, after one year things would change and they would return to live the life like before and when that doesn't happen they starts feeling suffocated. It is long journey and if both parent takes responsibility ,things would start changing and even women can feel secure in her professional career to make things work in her way.
The moment baby wakes up, the only things comes in the mother's mind is What her baby is going to eat? How often baby needs a massage?, is her baby's stomach full?, Is she making a good choices? Is she a good mother? Baby's sleeping pattern? How is she going to manage baby and household chores at the same time? Her body fatigued, tiredness due to birthing and many more thing only she can feel and exhausted at the end of the day.
And she knows that nobody else could take care of her baby the way she does and even if she wants to take a break there is no other way possible. It is never about handling a baby that makes her tired because nobody considers that work a full time job and without appreciation it is the worst feeling to ever overcome.
But, WHAT MAKES IT EVEN MORE HARDER? Mothers dedicate her whole life ,from the moment she wakes up till she sleeps it is only about her baby and the other things like managing household chores, taking care of the older parents, her own health, self-doubts, career finished, professional commitments, her own body postpartum, and NO APPRECIATION .
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