Stay-at-Home-Mother vs Working Mothers: Who is Best?

Mothers have infinite roles or responsibilities whether she is full time housewife or working mom. Earlier, women are supposed to look after the family and kids and do household chores .But, now the things have changed .Women are also reaching to great heights and can be top of her career. However, both roles(housewife and working mom) need immense hardwork and responsibility to fulfill.

Hello Ladies or Gentleman, I am a mother of two kids (age 5 and age 1)I am SAHM. The purpose of writing this blog is to let know all the new mothers out there that you are not alone. You are doing a great job, you are nurturing the future, you are creating tomorrow.

Stay At Home Mother(SAHM)-SAHM is a fulltime job. It is not like that you are getting break and working only 2-3 hours and resting throughout the day. But some people look down upon to housewife. It is always considered that after marriage women has responsibility to look after her in-laws and kids which is not easy at all. They are sacrificing their life , their career , their choices, their interests, their biological family, and many more things which once she used to have comfort with.

But, life after kids is not same as it is used to be earlier. Kids need full time attention and it is vey daunting task. Here, many women face postpartum depression which is not even understood by family members and others just because of her loneliness and tiredness caused due to birthing and continuous nursing. It is being said that your biological clock and career clock comes in a conflict  at the same time. When you want to be succeeded in your career your age is hinting you to get married. After becoming mother, it even become so tough to sit down with your spouse and just relax and talk your heart out. It takes a lot to nurture a newborn. I do not know "Will I be able to justify with the words in this blog ?"that women actually experience or feel after becoming a mother.

Advantages of SAHM-When you are at home you can make all the resources work in your way .I know your routine revolves around your kids. You do not get time even to comb your hair or take a bath because baby doesn't want to leave you. Sometimes, it becomes so fussy that you cannot eat your favorite food or enjoy your evening tea. You are filled with mixed emotions because of sleep deprived, does not wanting to talk to anyone. And if you have one more toddler or living with family the routine is chaotic.

Working Mothers-Indeed, the dedication and hard work of working mothers deserve admiration and recognition. Balancing the responsibilities of being a full-time housewife, mother, and employee is undoubtedly challenging. Despite the rewarding nature of both roles, working mothers often face various obstacles, including lack of support from both their families and the workplace. This lack of support contributes significantly to the growing number of women dropping out of the workforce.

The phrase "it takes a village to raise a child" rings true, yet the burden of childcare is often disproportionately placed on women. While some families may have the support of extended family members, not everyone has this luxury. Many working mothers find themselves managing childcare responsibilities alone, without adequate support systems in place. This is where the need for more equitable policies, such as extended paternity leave, becomes evident.

The issue of paternity leave is crucial in addressing the imbalance of childcare responsibilities between men and women. By offering extended paternity leave, companies can support working mothers by allowing fathers to take on a more active role in childcare. This not only promotes gender equality but also alleviates some of the pressure on working mothers, enabling them to better balance their work and family commitments.

Furthermore, it's essential to create a welcoming and supportive environment in the corporate sector for working mothers. This includes implementing flexible work arrangements, providing access to childcare facilities or subsidies, and fostering a culture that values work-life balance. By accommodating the needs of working mothers, companies can retain talented employees and promote diversity and inclusion in the workplace.

Why Women does not want to be Stay at Home Mothers(SAHM)?

Nowadays, women achieving a lot at any given field be it a cooperative or any entrepreneurial jobs and after having a success it is quite hard for them to give up on their career. Having a good career or jobs give you immense security in financial as well as emotional security.

But, after getting married if she doesn't get supportive family or spouse it becomes so traumatic for her to manage both at the same time. Women are generally known for doing multitasking, but not at the same time. Initially, she tries to sort of everything on her own but gradually not everything works in our way some adversity might happens .Even if she manages after marriage after kids it is inevitable to manage everything without support at workplace or even at home.

At workplace, they consider women productivity reduce after having kids and don't promote them and even hire other employees to serve the role. Women wants to get succeed in every field and also wants to be a good mother. Otherwise, society is there to remind her that she's not good enough to become a mother. No matter how much sacrifice she would have done to be a good mother there will be always one thing that makes her feel guilty. Even if she hire a daycare or babysitting, society would give her certificate of failure in caring her baby and she has to deal with all the mental pressure receiving constantly.

Not everyone has the luxury of having a good supportive spouse or husband or a good family after marriage. Society needs to understand that empowered women empower the world and if women feel secure or independent eventually it is going to benefit the family or society only.

Although, nowadays many companies give work from home options and many women making it but still some women can't have this option because of family issues, constantly worrying about the child necessities and attention. As soon she comes in front of laptop she's expected to multitask in kitchen as well and that's make her feel demotivated resulting in resigning at their workplace.

If [reader] agree to the narrator please show some courage and let women achieve at workplace or even as an individual after all she has her own identity like being a father or a husband doesn't make men identity. They have to meet the deadlines or bring the sales to get promoted women also has the same mental pressure and need to meet the deadlines. It is not always done if you know how to make good food and make other's happy.

Women tend to sacrifice or give up on her dreams for the sake of others or the society. But, everyone knows what she wants or they know but don't want them achieve what they want because then they won't get what they expect. Let me clear the only thing women want in her life is SUPPORT. It is even ashamed to ask for it but no one cares if you don't ask for it. The time she starts asking for the favor or the support true colors behind the sugar coated compliments will be visible.

Finally, I want women to know that YOU ARE FABULOUS,DO YOUR JOB AND LEAVE THE REST. THE MOMENT YOU GET SUCCESS EVERYTHING COMES AT ITS PLACE .